My boyfriend wants to try doing some swinging with a group of swingers
Published Friday, 6th Nov 09:41 GMT
My boyfriend wants to try doing some swinging with a group of swingers that go to our club that he heard about recently. Me and him have only been dating for 6 months so the fact that already he is so bored in bed with me that he needs other women is pretty shocking to me. I am trying not to be offended by it, I know that he's not trying to hurt me but the way he brought it up in the middle of our love making last night made me uncomfortable. One minute he was planting a soft kiss on my shoulder and the next he is telling me that he wants to sleep with another woman and that he wants to watch me have sex with another man, that he thinks we would have a lot of fun swinging with those people he heard about at the club.
It made me so uncomfortable that Icouldn'tfinish and then that made him mad and we ended up fighting about it all night long. Again this morning though after saying he was sorry forupsettingme he again brought up the swinging and how much fun we could be having if we were a part of it. I don't know what to think about it, I have been sitting here all morning wondering if I should just break up with him. I truly am not comfortable with the idea of sharing him with another woman and most certainly not comfortable with the though ofsleepingwith a man that I do not know.
This is a hard decision for me because up until those dreaded words last night I was beginning to think that maybe I had found the man that I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Now all thanks to that swinging group and to the fact that hedoesn'tlove me enough to only have sex with me I may have to walk away and start brand new. I hated the whole dating scene but really I think I hate it less than the thought of having to sleep with a bunch of strangers just to keep my boyfriend happy. In fact I don't even know why I am thinking about it so much, the minute the word came out of his mouth I should have immediately shown him the door and then slammed it as hard as I could. I think that is exactly what I will go home and do right now.
1 Comment for "My boyfriend wants to try doing some swinging with a group of swingers"
Sounds very familiar, I also dated a guy whom I met on a dating site and we finished last week. I fell deeply in love with him but he just could not constrain himself from telling me how many women he had, that he was living with a porn star at one time that after that he went crazy and left nothing and nobody untouched. I didn't find it appetizing knowing that the guy I love has screwed half the female population and told him so - he accused me of not having a heart and finished! He was excellent in bed but it was like a performance, I'm there for you now its my turn. He would always mention that he needs to be sexually fulfilled and
was trying to persuade me to swing on several occasions.
I have a very healthy sexual appetite myself but got told that 'sex can only be fine if everything else is right outside the bedroom' ie. if the house wasn't 'clean' up to his standards or he was unhappy about something - no sex for me but at the same time he was trying to sell me the swinging lifestyle telling me I'm overly jealous and stuck up. Good luck to him, I would never say never but I need to be treated right and I need to feel loved and wanted and not like another notch in the wood. I guess he is a sex addict and although I am open to things, for me its important to have a great relationship first and stay open to where it leads. If both can deal with it, fine, if not I guess there will always be a problem. The one who doesn't want to feels unloved and insecure, probably jealous and starts to 'look for signs' and the one who wants to swing may get resentments. Either way I think its doomed to failure and even though I still love him with all my heart, I know I cannot be with him. I don't want to spend the rest of my life worrying when the day comes I find out that he was with someone else ... but it was just sex!